Why you need to ask the right questions and listen to the right voice

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You can’t figure life out. It feels too complicated. There are too many unseen twists and turn that don’t make sense. You think you have the path figured out and then changes.

A sentence spoken by a stranger, a change of the wind, a job loss, the destruction of a friendship, or the loss of a loved one.

How can we ever know or control the direction of our life?

Unless we have a crystal ball to consult, we can’t.

We can fill ourselves with angst as we try to work out which path we should walk upon, or we can just give it all up and allow life to guide us there?

I believe so strongly in the power of questions. You tell me picket fence, and I say

You tell me picket fence, and I say why? You say the world is unsafe, I say where’s your evidence? You say you can’t travel the world with kids, I say I’ll show you.

I won’t accept anything as truth unless I’ve tested it first myself.

The questionings help guide me to the testing.

inner voice

Life is about asking the RIGHT questions.

If you’ve been following the blog and reading my emails, you know our recent travel journey was filled with dramatic changes. It was freakin’ scary to move through it, but what moved me forward was the guidance I received from asking the right questions.

These are not questions I expect a definitive answer for – from someone wiser than me – but ones I’ve thrown out to the wind with total openness and trust to hear the answers from within.

I never used to be this way. I was always second guessing myself and looking towards others smarter and braver than me to tell me what to do. But over the past couple of years, I’ve learned to believe and trust in my intuition and inner voice.

I noticed this unravelling of trust and flow on our road trip around Australia. Every journey we go on helps us learn and grow; I think my biggest lesson on this trip was to learn to let go, trust and just believe that what I need will arrive.

It took me years to get to this point, and as I mentioned in this post, meditation and inner reflection has helped. My brilliant spiritual and modern mystic mentor, Belinda Davidson has had a huge impact on my life in helping me get there. I did an intense six-month course with her while we were travelling, and it helped me to believe in what my inner voice was telling me and to trust in following it.

When it became apparent to me our road trip was no longer working, I felt such upheaval and confusion. But I released the question of why and what next to the wind with openness. Even though I was impatient for the answers, I trusted they’d arrive in good time.

The answers came Uluru Uluru Uluru. I didn’t now why, but I just knew this was the voice to follow. (I listen to it all the time now, whether it’s selecting a present for someone or choosing which way to go for my morning walk. It leads me to moments of awe and miracles each time)

Sunrise at Uluru in Central Australia

Once I decided that Uluru was it, without any effort on our behalf, all other options, but the road to Uluru were severed. After our week in Uluru, I felt like everything clicked into place, and I was being carried to the perfect path.

By perfect, I don’t mean the opposite of imperfect, but perfect for what you need right there right now.

There were no lighting flash aha moments. The Uluru spirits did not speak directly to me, but the answers arrived subtly, just like the subtle change of the giant rock at sunset. It slips from orange to red to purple without you even noticing. All you see is the magnificence grandeur of it.

Sunrise at Uluru in the Central Australia

But, at the end of it, I now I’ve changed. I have clarity. I know what I need to do next, and everything feels perfect and right to me. Uluru changed me slowly.

The questions carried us all he way through the Queensland Outback to Burleigh. Why Burleigh? Because the voice kept saying, You’ve got to go to Burleigh.

Once we arrived, I kept getting distracted with desires to live in Coolangatta and then Kingscliff,  but the voice kept saying, No Burleigh.

And here we are. We were lead effortlessly to an amazing apartment right near the beach, and I feel like my soul has just exhaled.

Here I am, right where I’m supposed to be.

(Then today, I ran into Belinda Davidson at the local farmer’s market, and we hugged and chatted and giggled like friends who’d known each other forever. And I had a post published on her site today about maintaining a spiritual practice on your travels)

Since I’ve grown into this way of being – just allowing life to guide me, every day is a WOW day I can see how everything is connected and supportive and waiting to deliver you a blissful life. When things don’t go the way you want them to, you don’t care, because you understand something more powerful is at work taking you to a more perfect place. It’s all perfect.

So whatever you need to move you forward, don’t push or pull, just ask. What do I have to do? What is the most perfect place for my journey? How can I best serve? What do I need to learn and do to help bring the life of my dream to me?

Then sit back, trust with an open heart. When you feel those answers in your soul, follow them without letting fear tell you why you shouldn’t.

Then it doesn’t matter what is happening around you good or bad; life is just a miracle and purposeful, and you are at the centre of it.

Tell me about how you’ve noticed this happening in your life. I’m sure I’m not the only one, and if you think carefully in retrospect, you’ll notice how that clear voice within has always been guiding you to the right place.

17 thoughts on “Why you need to ask the right questions and listen to the right voice”

  1. Thank you for this post. This has helped me so much! And I will be saving this one so that I can keep coming back to it whenever I begin to doubt myself or start to give in to fear. Ever thought about writing a book? Just a thought.

  2. Mel Elderfield

    Needed to read this! Thankyou! Classic Pom living it up in aus for 15months (last stop incidentally was Kira, so burleigh is close to my heart too)… Allowed my life to take a huge tangent and went off journeying through USA, Honduras and Peru on a mad whim! Truly magical. Life is great, I thought, when you just go with it! Then out the blue, wham, I’m collapsed on the inca trail, I’m sick, I need an MRI, then I’m back with mum and dad in English surburbia awaiting a hospital appointment and not able to fly back to beloved Australia… And it’s like say whaaaat?! This was never the plan. I’m SUPPOSED to be chasing a ski season job in New Zealand right now. But you know whats awesome? Time. Sometimes the universe just gives us time, and it takes us somewhere even better. Sure, stuck in England waiting on the NHS isn’t great; but the interim I had the time to get healthy, rest and even attend a TBEX conference on a whim… Got uber inspired… And have now decided to move to Asia and blog full time.

    Often I am guilty of rushing from one mad adventure to the next! Sometimes, though, there is a better plan for us… We just have to trust our instincts enough to overlook a crappy situation and follow those whims to the where the universe is really leading us, where we are REALLY meant to be.

  3. I like your thinking Caz – reminds me of the Alchemist book by Paulo Cohello.
    I think that’s were I’ve been going wrong lately, I’ve been reacting rather than enquiring. I’ve acted first and thought later and it’s something I need to change to find where I need to be and to bring more positivity into my life. 🙂

    1. I know you’ll get there Chris! The downturns are really important as they’re helping us get back on the right path. The questioning will help you find it quicker. Hoping the brightness returns soon xx

  4. I completely agree that your inner voice tells you what you need if you listen hard enough. My inner voice kept telling me to move to Peru… of all places. It’s a random choice and no one understood. Everyone said “Why Peru? I don’t even know where that is!” But for some reason, I just knew that I had to be there. And I learned and loved it so much!

    I felt the same way about Thailand. I needed to move there after Peru. I can’t really explain why but something was pulling me. And I just feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be!

    It can be a little frustrating when you can’t explain why you’re moving across the world and it takes a lot of courage to trust that inner voice when you don’t really have logic on your side, but it can really pay off!

    1. I love hearing stories like this. It’s so incredible the journey we can go on when we just let that inner voice guide us. It becomes such an effortless adventure and you’re more tuned into the magic of it all. It only then brings more magic!

  5. Yes, I believe that each of us has a voice deep down inside of our consciousness that guides us and we follow it, sometimes. What is the meaning of life? The answer is always different because we are all different, but I believe this is what we are trying to discover. Lyrics from songs make so much sense sometimes “life’s a journey, not a destination” , even Leonardo Da Vinci said something to this point, that he would rather keep on searching and never get everything he wants because that is the worst, when you don’t have any other wishes, it is bliss to be on a continuous search, the thrill of the catch. I think as long as we have questions, we keep going, we sometimes get an answer that speaks only to us, and then we have more questions, and life goes on. Sometimes it gets hectic, and slowing down is exactly the solution. Slow down and look into ourselves.

    1. Yes! It reminds me of many experiences I’ve had hiking to the tops of mountains. You arrive at the top and the view is covered in clouds, yet you don’t care because the experience you had walking to the top was where all the fun was!

    1. Yes. I’ll have to reread that. It’s been years since I read it and I had a much different outlook back then. I”m sure I’ll gain so much more from it now

  6. Caz, your articles always have me nodding along and whispering to myself “Yes, exactly right!” The older I get the better I am at listening to my inner voice and where it’s leading me. The why may not always be apparent, but everything falls into place. My husband and I were feeling pulled back to Cambodia. Of course it was emotional to move away from family and friends again, but we both feel that we’re exactly where we’re meant to be right now, and that’s the most reassuring feeling in the world. Thanks for the reminder to keep following my inner voice without fear.

    1. My pleasure! I’m excited to hear how things open up for you in Cambodia Jen! Keep us updated and enjoy the adventure.

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