You and I both know it. You’ve got big dreams and you feel it in your heart that you can live it.
How do you get there?
You set goals of course. A plan of action. What you want, when you want it, and how you want it.
“By December, 2014, I will have sold 20,000 books, have 1,000,000 visitors, and be earning $30,000 a month.”
You’ve mapped out the finer details and then rub your hands together with glee. You’re controlling the goddamn Universe now to conspire to your will.
In 256 days time, you’ll be that millionaire CEO of your OWN company.
It’s an exhilarating goal.
The problem is while you’re planning and waiting, you’re missing out on the exhilarating life in your present moment.
You throw everything into creating the imagined future and you arrive at G-date, (goal-date) and you’re still not even a paid employee of your own company, let alone CEO.
Shit. Where did you go wrong?
The goal was supposed to steer you to the destination.
Goal setting is a waste of time
It only leads you to become disheartened because you cannot EVER control the future.
You can steer your boat in a certain direction, and you may have a very clear map showing you the twists and turns, but you’ll never know where the branches have fallen and the rocks that have been dislodged that will alter your course.
You won’t be prepared to deal with the challenges as they arrive, or be open to the new and better opportunities that pop up along the journey.
The opportunities that will take you to the destination in a faster or more enjoyable route.
Are you a big-thinking goal setter?
I’m a big thinking kinda girl.
When it comes to planning my future, I don’t get bogged down by details. I envision the most awesomeness outcome, and then I set goals for that (well I used to. Now I know goal setting doesn’t work I have a new formula. Read on!)
I stay focused on the goal and push and pull my way to make it happen.
G-date arrives and I’m so far from the ocean, all I feel is devastation. I beat myself up as to what a loser I am. Why can all the other goal setters make it work and not me? Why am I doomed?
Eventually I stop trying.
If goal setting doesn’t seem to work for me and I’ve been told that’s the path to achievement, why bother?
The frantic chasing doesn’t give me a chance to stop and think about how good my actual results are and all that I’ve learned in the process. All I can see is how I failed because I didn’t hit the lofty target.
Goal Control puts us in a spinning kind of lifestyle.
Our only control
Goal setting doesn’t work because we are human and we cannot control the future, just like we cannot erase the past. The only thing we have control over is the present moment.
When we do that, and we do it with love and joy, the Universe begins to mold itself to our desires and dreams anyway.
It’s because we are saying, ‘this is what I desire and I trust that you know what is best and how it fits into the grand scheme and I believe you’ll help to bring me the perfect solution.’
That perfect solution may not be as it looks from your eyes, but it is as it brings you what you need to learn in order to get to the bigger vision.
How travel helps you to let go of goals and trust the journey
Travel is the perfect example of the beauty of going with the flow and not being tied to your goals.
Your travel rarely goes to plan – things happen to mess it up. You fall in love, you heard about Chilled Out Beach Village on the other side of the country that you just HAVE to go to, or you HATE the city you planned to spend 10 days in.
After a year you find yourself in Guatemala when your goal told you it’d be Greenland.
You soon learn to survive and thrive on the travel road you have to throw away the plans. You’ve got a general pathway, but you just go with the flow of the moment.
The journey is what becomes memorable and each moment steers you to the next most perfect scenario.
Setting goals as an entrepreneur
When I started the entrepreneurial journey I didn’t feel very business savvy. I listened to SMART people telling me about S.M.A.R.T goals and followed their lead.
Into the rinse spin cycle I went.
I’ve since jumped out of the cycle at the part that said, you learned the truth while you were travelling – goal setting is a waste of time. Just enjoy the journey and trust you’ll create what you want as long as you fill it with love and the purpose to serve.
Every single door of opportunity that has arrived for us through our business came as a surprise and gift from the Universe. There was no planning, no time frames set, no action plans, no pushing or pulling from us.
It’s the most tripped out ride I’ve ever been on and I love it.
Screw the goal setting – the most boring, stressful way I’ve ever tried to run a business and a path that has only made me feel like a failure and totally took my eyes off the journey.
Goals replace fun with pressure and strip away the moment of joy and growth. All the greatness of my life has arrived by sticking to the following 5 step plan.
A 5-step alternative to goal-setting
1. Paint a very clear picture of the lifestyle you want.
What’s your greater vision? What does the ocean at the end of that river look like? Don’t try and control it with specific measurable or time frames.
2. Let it go.
Leave it to the Universe to figure the plan. I know a lot of you are calling complete bullshit now. I know this is an incredibly difficult thing to understand and even harder to do. So I suggest do it in small steps until you get a feel for it and develop that belief.
3. Take actionable steps each day.
Once you know your greater vision, you should be aware of the action steps you need to take. Each day focus on what you can do that day. Don’t worry about what needs to be done in two weeks time. Hold your focus on the vision, but do the work today.
4. Listen to your gut.
Again, another difficult thing to do as we’ve been taught to honour our mind. We’ve got it all wrong. The gut is the central decision making point of our body. It’s always speaking to us, when we listen we move in the right direction.
If it says reach out to that person by email, then I do that. I might not understand why, but I don’t have to, I just have to take action. (I talk more about this concept in my ebook)
5. Be open and engage your five senses.
When you’re alert and experiencing the world through your five senses and not your mind, which only focuses on the past or worries about the future, then you see the opportunities banging on your door. All you gotta do is open and walk and be ready to learn and grow at every turn.
5. Celebrate the magic and just enjoy the bloody ride.
Let go, let loose, enjoy the moment. You’ll be surprised at how soon you’ll arrive at that vision and you would have loved every minute of the process.
You didn’t miss the moment because you were actively participating in it.
Then when you arrive at the ocean, you realize that’s not such a big deal, it was the river journey that was more enlightening and memorable.
So how do you progress towards your dream?
Goal setter or tube floater?